the mid-20s question

so as a mid-to-late 20s single girl, you have to wonder "where the hell are all the good guys?" so as i woman naturally i instantly think that men are lacking, i mean its certainly not us...we are just picky. my friend recently told me she overheard a guy talking to his friend, in his opinion unmarried women over the age of 30 must have something wrong with them. so as you can see the debate continues, but i have to wonder who is right?

many people will probably respond that is situation dependent, i mean there are crazy guys and there are crazy girls out there too. so here is my little insight that i just happened upon. 

as women age they become independent. they spend more and more time alone and start to realize that really there isnt anything wrong with that. i think by nature men are far more likely to be "loners" then women, i mean lets be serious we wont even go to the bathroom alone. so as they spend more and more of their single lives alone, they actually begin to like it. you make your own schedule, spend your time as you see fit and things are planned and ruley the way we generally like them.

so when a new guy comes around who is maybe less-than-perfect, we have to wager: giving this independance and assured lifestyle for a different one. i dont think that necessarily makes us less prone to do it, in fact i think we are aching for the companionship...however as the time wears on and the novelty wears off (*remove rose colored glasses) you think is this better than being alone?

sometimes it is...sometimes it isnt. but what isnt there that was there in your early twenties is the assurance that if you throw this one back into the sea, you ARE going to be ok alone, in fact youve done it before and you kinda liked it. settling isnt an option, leave that for your later 30s ;)

this is just a thought feel free to respond...introspection is very interesting